Desiring, a state common to all of us, can be tricky when one fails to understand some basic facts that are firmly rooted in and as demonstrated by neuroscience[1]. When we assume that we are thinking about something we want, how we are truly feeling about it is what actually tells us what we are really thinking about. This is because our brain responds best to emotions and least to words.
The advertisement and news industries are very much informed about this piece of knowledge.[2] And they have used it effectively, often to our own detriment. When it comes to our patients, many of them report that they pray. Based on their report, it sounds like they are praying. They are asking for money, while feeling poor at the same time, and this is really not an effective way of praying. For because we see through our brain, our brain does not really know the difference between what we want and what we don’t want without relying upon the emotional input.[3] As Einstein says, “Vibration is the language of the universe, not words.”[4] This simple notion partly explains why we can become afraid even when there is nothing there in reality. Think about the last time someone you know walked into the room you were in and you didn’t hear them, and you then turned around and were startled. Or, better yet, think about being in a movie theater or at home, watching a horror movie. We can quite easily convince ourselves and then feel fear[5], even when it is not real.
This in turn is related to how we use our words, and how many patients, who pray, seem to use their words. The secret of happiness, of fulfillment, and of success, is, therefore, indeed, rooted in the following:
- Pattern recognition
- Pattern breaking
- Pattern eradication
These three steps which are the ultimate 3 goals of our New Psychotherapy Certificate Course are essential to end suffering, to express a state of empowerment, and to express fulfillment, and self-actualization.
How fortunate we are to have access to this, and how happy we are to be able to help our clients access this powerful method.
[1] Berridge, Kent C. “Wanting and Liking: Observations from the Neuroscience and Psychology Laboratory.” Inquiry (Oslo, Norway) vol. 52,4 (2009): 378. doi:10.1080/00201740903087359
[2] Ward, S. J. A. (2010, August 24). Emotion in reporting: Use and abuse. Center for Journalism Ethics. Retrieved June 8, 2022, from https://ethics.journalism.wisc.edu/2010/08/23/emotion-in-reporting/#:~:text=The%20emotions%20provide%20motivation%20for,the%20world%2C%20and%20summon%20help.
[3] Morin, A. (2021, December 10). This is how your thoughts become your reality. Forbes. Retrieved June 8, 2022, from https://www.forbes.com/sites/amymorin/2016/06/15/this-is-how-your-thoughts-become-your-reality/?sh=6a990521528a
[4] Vibhavari. (2022, April 19). The vibration of words. HubPages. Retrieved June 8, 2022, from https://discover.hubpages.com/education/The-Vibration-of-words
[5] Debiec, Jacek, and Joseph LeDoux. “Fear and the brain.” Social Research (2004): 807-818.