“reality,” versus “Reality”

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“reality,” versus “Reality”

What’s “Reality”? What do our clients say? What do they think? What do they feel or experience?  What’s the “Truth?” Is it a subjective one? “Does everyone have his or her one “Truth”? Does Truth vary?

The answer to all this is a resounding NO. It is a no because there is a difference between “reality,” and “Reality.” There is a difference between the “truth,” and the “Truth,” and there is a difference between “one,” and “One.”  For example, “truth,” can change from one person to the next, from one time to the next, or from one place to the next. “reality,” can shift from one situation to the next, from one state of mind to the next, or from one context to the next. However, “Truth,” “Reality,” or “Oneness [1],” does not change, cannot change, and will never change. How can, or do, we know that for sure? We know that for sure because for something to be Truth or Reality, it cannot have any exceptions, it is universal. In other words, whenever or wherever we perceive any exceptions, it is an indication that we are not perceiving the Truth, Reality, or Oneness. 

To put it plainly and categorically, here’s all our clients need to know:

The Truth, Reality, or Oneness does not and cannot change. The Truth, Reality, or Oneness, cannot be threatened. And the Truth, Reality, or Oneness does not and cannot falter or cannot cease to be.

This is all they need to know and this will transform their life, those around them, and anyone who will have the honor of knowing them.  Here’s another way of putting this, “What changes cannot be Real. What can be threatened cannot be Real. And what falters, ceases, or has exceptions, cannot be Real.” Understanding this is our patients’ ticket to freedom, peace of mind, and joy. This is their ticket to authentic happiness, authentic success, and fulfillment. This is their ticket to full self-expression, self-actualization [2], and self-realization [3].

This is also their ticket out of poverty, lack, and conflicts in relationships. In fact, this is the ticket they can use to help themselves and those around them get out of suffering, victimhood, and out of a feeling that they are merely existing. Let’s use the following three examples to illustrate what that drastic difference will be experienced as:

  1. r: “My parents had lots of physical health conditions, and it’s just a matter of time before the same thing happens to me.”  
    R: “Our genes are not the determining factor of our health. The Science of epigenetics dictates that we get to choose which of our genes get expressed, and which ones do not.” 
  1. r: “I cannot stop eating that much sugar even when I would like to stop. My body must need a lot of it.”
    R: “Our body is simply a vehicle. Our mind is its driver and gets to decide which way our body goes.” 
  1. r: “My parents never slept well. This must be why I’ve been experiencing insomnia.”
    R: “We are a system that is designed to live in equilibrium. Once something shifts in the system, everything else is likely to shift in an attempt to restore stability and equilibrium. Our insomnia may seem to have something to do with our parents’ insomnia, but it has to do with our epigenetics and now our genes.

These examples, help us understand the distinctions between “r” and “R” and helps us see how even our healthcare system, which each year, adds more and more labels, names, or diagnoses to the already existing ten thousand ones, is based on “reality” and not “Reality.”  If we instead, focused on a Reality-based premise of healthcare, we would view disease, as not disease, but as a restoration process of our organism to return to its natural state of health [4]. That’s it. This is it. This is the premise. This is all there is. This is the one and only premise and everything else is noise.

Now, for some, this may sound like a reductionist view. However, when we take a step back, we’ll realize that it is actually the opposite. How is that?

  1. This is not a view; this is not a belief; it is not faith or hope. This is just what it is – Reality. This is the Truth.
  2. How do we know for sure? Because there is nothing else but that. Because there is only Oneness.

Would our patients not be glad to finally know Reality, the Truth, or Oneness? Would they not be glad that they have found a treasure that they now know they have no reason to hide, because in Reality the more they share the more they get to expand their treasure?

At the SWEET Institute, we are happy for you, fellow clinicians, for our patients, and for the field overall as Science enters the new frontier in Reality-Based Thinking. We celebrate and congratulate you. And we look forward to hearing about your new adventure.

We  send you Love (Reality-Based Love). And until soon,
Karen and Mardoche

[1] “Oneness – How We Are All One.” Better Believe It!, 16 Sept. 2016, betterbelieveit.net/oneness-how-we-are-all-one/.

[2] Perera, Ayesh. “Self-Actualization: Simply Psychology.” Self-Actualization | Simply Psychology, 4 Sept. 2020, www.simplypsychology.org/self-actualization.html.

[3] Choi, Eugene K. “How to Attain Self Realization (Step-By-Step Guide).” Lifehack, Lifehack, 3 Sept. 2019, http://www.lifehack.org/682908/how-to-attain-self-realization-a-guide-to-become-a-better-you

[4] Tcim. “Is the Body Designed to Heal Itself?” TCIM, TCIM, 7 Aug. 2019, www.tcimedicine.com/post/is-the-body-designed-to-heal-itself.